Monday, 27 May 2019
Thoughts & Humor

Can you “Love” someone without “Liking” them?

We asked the question can you “Love” someone without “Liking” them?”

Some of the responses we received intimated, “Love” and “Like” are two different emotions, but can exist without the other.

We may “Love” someone, but not “Like” their behavior(s). One parent loved their child with all their heart, but didn’t like their behavior. A child can love a parent, but not like their actions, choices and values.


Obligated to Love:

Do we feel obligated to “Love” people we are close to, family members, even if we don’t like their behavior?  Love really is a matter of choice, where like is a matter of enjoying the person and relationship. Liking someone and being around them, learning about them, having fun with them can turn into love. So does that mean if you’re not around a person for a long period of time, you can fall out of love with them?

One person asked this question about Love and Like; “We use the word love so freely, has it lost some of its meaning”. We throw the word around in everyday life, such as:  ‘I love your haircut’, ‘I just love that movie star in their recent role’, ‘I love going for long walks on the beach’.  People put heart emoji’s on texts, social media postings, and fan pages. Does this dissolve the meaning of the word? Has it been overused in society today?

Did you know in tennis the term “Love” in scoring means you have “0” points? Think about that for a minute.

Every human being craves being loved.  If we are loved, is it easier to love others? There is no love such as the love we have for another human being. (Not sure if a pet owner would agree with that though.)  When you love someone it changes you. When you are loved, it changes who you are and changes your perspective. True love is a very deep emotion.

Unconditional Love:

Unconditional love, is so deep and freeing.  To love someone unconditionally may be hard to do, but to have someone love you unconditionally is such an amazing feeling.  It means to love without limitations or conditions. Even when you love someone wholeheartedly and accept them for who they are, healthy boundaries are essential. But, sometimes you still may not condone their behavior so much.

So back to the original question:   Can you “Love” someone without “Liking” them. The responses to our question indicate a “Yes”.

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